I’m back! I know it’s been FOREVER. I had surgery on my shoulder and I was out of commission for a while. I’ll probably be posting several here in the next few days.
I’ve read a lot of these love language books. Each one, while similar, offer different perspectives and different advice. Each person is unique in what they need and each book is unique in its own way. I’m a huge fan of Chapman. He’s a really smart man. Did he have his faults? Oh I’m sure! But his advice is excellent.
First thing I realized reading this book is that both of my children have different love languages. Second thing I realized is that I was lacking. We’ve all read or heard of the love languages. The five ways a person feels loved. But did any of us think that it also applied to children? I didn’t. When I thought of love languages I thought of a relationship between two people. This book has opened my eyes.
Any love, in any form, can be spoken to through a love language. There are five of them and each individual person fits into all five in some way. The one that most fits with you, is your given language. Me, I have two that basically tie together as my language. Both make me feel loved.
Immediately, I was able to pick out my 9 year old daughters love language. My five year old- she was a little harder. She’s so different from day to day in the way she acts it’s hard to pinpoint. This book is based off school aged children, mainly I think because they are old enough to have shown what they need for love. A smaller child is going through changes and hasn’t really grown into themselves yet.
One of the best things about the book is, Gary Chapman uses biblical principles, personal experiences, and tips on how to best speak each language. This is a must have book for any parent. Any parent. Raising a child is a hard thing, and having the tools to make sure your child grows up in a loving home is very important.
It also teaches that every child is different, which is something a lot of parents can forget. Myself included. I know from time to time I’ve said, why can’t you be more like your sister… or, your sister didn’t react that way when she got into trouble. I guess I never realized that punishing with what makes the child feel loved cuts really deep for them and hurts in a way that we shouldn’t be hurting our children.
I recommend this book to anyone who has or is thinking about having a child. It’s based mainly for school aged children, but it’s very helpful and informational.